The question of how to politely ask for cash instead of gifts is a common one that Invitations Your Way receives.
Even though, many couples have come up with creative ways to ask for monetary gifts for their wedding or engagement in their invitations, the truth is traditional wedding etiquette definitely frowns on doing so and it is considered rude. When inviting someone to a wedding you are requesting their attendance to share in your special occasion, not asking them for a gift. The mention of any sort of gift or registry in your wedding invitation implies that your guest is required to give you a present. It is at the discretion of each guest to decide what or how much to give. However, many guests will want to know what the couple needs; this is where your bridal party can help.
The best way to get the word out is to put your bridal party to work. Let your parents, wedding party and close friends spread the news for you. They do not need to personally call every person on your guest list; when asked your bridal party can discreetly inform the guest as to your wishes. “Bride and Groom are saving for a down payment on house and would appreciate monetary gifts”. However if the guest asks the bride or groom direct they should never ask for money.
The introduction of wedding websites has made this a bit easier as your wedding registry and/or gift wishes can be included on your wedding website. There are also cash registry websites that set up an online account for your guests to give monetary wedding gifts.
Good Luck!
